When You Don’t LOVE Being a Parent…
Becoming a parent is often described as one of the most rewarding experiences in life. However, for some individuals, the postpartum period can be a time of intense stress, anxiety, and depression. It’s common to feel overwhelmed, exhausted, and even resentful when caring for a newborn. Many feel like they don’t recognize themselves anymore! But what if these feelings don’t go away? What if you don’t love being a parent?
What if these feelings don’t go away?
It’s important to acknowledge that not everyone feels an instant connection to their newborn, and it’s okay to feel this way. It doesn’t mean that you are a bad parent or that you don’t care about your newborn. It’s normal to feel a range of emotions during the postpartum period, and it takes time to adjust to your new role.
If those early ‘baby blues’ continue and you feel you are struggling with postpartum depression, anxiety, other forms of mood disorder (PTSD, OCD, etc.) simply finding it difficult to bond with your baby, there are steps you can take to get help.
First and foremost, it’s important to talk to your healthcare provider. They can offer support, resources, and referrals to mental health professionals who specialize in postpartum mood disorders. Second, tell your doula! She can absolutely connect you with someone who specializes in all these postpartum feelings. It’s your doula’s job to know these things!
You’ve taken an important first step in having doula care and seeking out support from family and friends can be invaluable, if you have them. Joining a new parent support group can also be helpful, as it provides a safe space to connect with others who are going through similar experiences.
Remember, it’s okay to ask for help, and it’s important to prioritize your own mental health and wellbeing. Parenting is challenging, and it’s okay to not love every moment of it. Be gentle with yourself, and know that with time and support, things can get better. Hiring one of our magical doulas was a very smart choice!
